I tried something new the last few weeks. I blurt out my feelings of anger when they first arise. Instantly. I started by sharing them with my husband and kids and saw the benefits. Now, I am expanding it to other close relationships. I ask them to do the same.
Learning how to release anger healthily changed my life. Anger management is so good that I want to share it with everybody. It is like I found a treasure hidden in my backyard.
You start the sentence with ‘I feel…’ Next, you choose one of the four basic emotions: sad, mad, scared or happy. After research, I simplified it down to the smallest set of options. No need to be fancy here. These four emotions will have you covered most of the time.
Who are you? What do you want? What are you feeling right now?
Imagine yourself in a place where what others thought of you was of little significance. What mattered most was how you felt about your life. A place where the ‘shoulds’ of your parents and society did not burden you.
A place where you were in touch with your feelings without judging them. Where you related to others deeply without losing view of your needs. Imagine you liked yourself. And your values and life were in alignment.