When I started coaching, I set out to help leaders find out what they wanted and how to get there. I also wanted to help them become who they really are. I know now that’s not what my coaching is about. I dare to say that’s not what life is about.
Why it is not about what you want
‘A goal is a place you are coming from, rather than a place you are going to.’ Rich Litvin.
My clients identified what they wanted early in the coaching process. Coaching helped admit to themselves what they already knew. The surprising thing was that through our work, they became less and less preoccupied with achieving it. They started being a lot happier in the present moment.
They were still pursuing that new job, business or promotion. But, they trusted that their journey was going well, and they enjoyed life in the meantime. Many of their goals became a reality. But, they no longer needed to achieve a particular goal to feel fulfilled.
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